One of the fundamental tenets of hypnotherapy is that you must appear confident. Appearing confident will instil in your clients the belief that what you are about to do with them will work. Using positive hypnotic language prior to hypnotherapy interventions will ‘prime’ your client for success. Apparently, whether you feel confident or not, appearing confident is enough for your clients to have faith in you.hypnotherpist confidence

Really? Are you sure you will never unknowingly betray your lack of confidence with your clients? Are we not just perpetuating, by our own example, the battle between subconscious and conscious? You know, that very same battle that your clients are coming to you to try and fix in them? Of course a confident therapist will help more than an unconfident one, but how do you get to be that grounded, confident and calm person that your clients need to see?

Misplaced Confidence

Let me give you an example of mistaken confidence.  His therapist was ‘quite confident’ that she could resolve the issue for him, but make him worse? How could that possibly be? She was confident. Why did that not communicate with this client? What stopped her being able to treat this man for this condition?

You see, no matter how confident you appear, if you don’t understand that the issue is often just the tip of the iceberg, then your treatment plan is like the drug culture of conventional medical practice that we all so protest about: that is, treating the symptom will often make things worse, not better.  

So how do you speak to your new prospects when they ring up enquiring whether you can help them with a phobia? Will you just bluster away telling them that hypnotherapy is very effective and you’re sure you can help? Not wanting to show any lack of confidence, of course! Or do you tell them that you don’t know if it will work without meeting them and seeing what the phobia is about. Sounds unconfident, doesn’t it? But is it…

Know Your Own Fears and ‘Blocks’

hypnotherapy trainingClients want a human being to talk to. When they phone you up, they often secretly don’t believe in hypnotherapy: they are often clutching at straws in blind faith. They believe they will be zapped and all will be well. I can hear on an initial call what position my prospects are taking. I can hear just how far they are on their journey to finding solutions. The Blind Faith stage always communicates that they think I’m in control. I communicate that their recovery depends on them doing some work. And then I can tailor my approach precisely to where they are.

How can I do that? Only by knowing myself very well, understanding my own fears and blocks, knowing which of my integrated practices may best suit this personality at this stage in their development and having faith that my approaches will grow with the client. And I have done that by intense personal study and reflection which for me, never stops. Every day that passes, I reflect on my knowledge and how to present it to you and my clients alike.

To gain confidence within our profession we need to do alot of work on ourselves. We have to dig pretty deep into our own lives to see where our own blocks and fears are inhibiting our clients’ development. Simply putting on a mask of confidence isn’t going to convince our clients we know what we are doing.  One of my supervisees said recently: ” I’ve just realised recently it’s all about transference!” I asked her to elaborate. She said, “Well, when we are stuck with a client it is about our block not theirs.” Hallelujah!


So our man with a phobia is not incurable he was just reflecting his therapist’s personal blocks or lack of insight. Sound onerous? It is! We hold great responsibility for people’s mental and emotional wellbeing in our profession. We need to commit to uncovering our deepest fears and blocks so that we can be of real value to the people we treat.

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