I’ve been contributing to a discussion on a forum I’m part of : Schizophrenia: causes and treatment, and today I just had to share the following.  It is what I teach in my authenticity programme and what comes up for discussion generally in the groups that I run.

Masculine and Feminine

Masculine and Feminine Balance

I realise as I look around and try and find some ‘real’ people that the world generally has become very outside referenced, very directional, analytical, superficial, external, competitive, animalistic ie: masculine while the other half of humanity, the sensing, intuitive, the creative, the vulnerable, the moody (as are the seasons) ie; the feminine has become deeply devalued.  I was talking about this just last Friday on my authenticity training day.  How do we learn to trust this deeper intuition?  Externally referenced ways of working are constantly looking for social proof and social approval, whereas the intuitive way of working doesn’t need it.  Sadly though, it also therefore, doesn’t gain much cudos or credibility in this external world we live in.  My mission is to pull together those that work authentically and intuitively, or who suspect that this is really where it’s happening, so that we too can contribute meaningfully to social interpretation of ‘reality’.  Quite difficult to market because essentially, we are simply saying we’re fine as we are.  We don’t need extra knobs and whistles to make us into something.  All we need to do is explore our deeper selves and actualise our realisations.  This transformation itself causes others to transform. (Richard Rohr – Adam’s Return).

One thing that strikes me is that our reality is dictated by our own thoughts and experiences.  Bruce Lipton and Rupert Sheldrake discuss this beautifully in this video, which if you get an hour or so to look at is well worth it.

They discuss the nature of consciousness and debate how the materialist view tries to look for the objective reality in the world, without realising that they are deeply influencing how they experience that by their line of enquiry. I remember an old adage that I occasionally incorporate into my teachings: “change the way you look at things and the things you look at will change”.  Traditional approaches to mental ill health make a range of assumptions from: it’s untreatable, you’ll have it for the rest of your life, without drugs you’ll relapse, to,  you just have to work through the worst of it and accept you’ll always have the tendency, and even that it’s a genetic inheritance that you’ll just have to put up with. If we come at mental health cases with this attitude then, guess what, that’ll be what happens.  Put a few hundred thousand health care professionals together who believe the same story and you’ll create a reality that, for those at the point when they are the most vulnerable in their lives because of a personal or indeed spiritual crisis, is very difficult if not impossible to escape. The experimenter effect here is happening on a world scale and the experimenters are still not aware of it!

Inner Conflict

The mental cost of conformity

Bruce Lipton and Rupert Sheldrake both advocate that the genetic argument is dead in the water.  And the reason they argue that is because their observations are different.  They observe how genetically identical material can have vastly different expressions and that the gene is just responding to the environment it finds itself in. If that is so, reality is up for grabs! Whatever reality we want to believe in will work for us.  So why don’t we believe in a reality that proposes hope?  Why don’t we believe in a reality that understands that we can heal and become well without drugs?  Probably because health care professionals haven’t experienced hope and faith in themselves as being able to find their own peace, let alone the poor patients they work with.  They do not know how to overcome their own fears and anxieties.  They do not know how to talk to themselves kindly and approvingly.  Because being externally referenced, and seeking social proof and approval outside somewhere, leaves the idea of going inside as the last thing that ‘feels’ right for them.  What feels right is the need to gain academic recognition and be part of the club.  What feels right is to talk the ‘lingo’ and join the never ending debate on whether human beings, who were born completely well, have the capacity as adults to regain their health without drugs.  This intellectualism is safe.  It provides identity and belonging on an external level, regardless of who they are on a human level.  And this disregarding of their own personal stories and experiences is what causes burnout.  This need to tether, harness and sublimate our internal realities in order to conform with some external idea of how it should be creates internal dissonance and is exhausting at the very least.

Healing is possible for all

I believe profoundly in our ability to make a full recovery from mental and indeed physical illness.  And I believe that because I have experienced both.  If I have experienced it, then I know it is possible.  When I know it is possible I make it more probable.  I understand our deeper conflicts and what causes people to wake up.  And my clients get well, not through years and years of working it our with their heads, but by experiencing how it feels to really get it with their hearts. And they are able to experience that more because energetically I give them permission to, merely by the fact that they witness someone who knows how they really feel deep inside.  My transformation causes their transformation.

If this were the collective attitude we approached serious mental health issues with, I wonder how our treatment models would reflect that?

If we are not working on our own personal realities and our own transformations, we are conning not only our patients/clients but also ourselves.  If we are not doing this, we are merely paying academic lip service to what we think some external, objective reality is about.  We cannot evidence any of it effectively.  And to then maintain that our reality is everyone else’s is a profoundly abusive approach to the most vulnerable people in our society.

If you resonate with this and would like to work with your guts more (intuitively) instead of your head (techniques or protocols) consider joining one of my mentorship groups.  There’s one in Edmonton, London and Great Dunmow, Essex.  You’ll find more about them on the home page.


Are you still struggling?

Greg Forde and Jenny Lynn

Two loners together!

Greg Forde, of the Atkinson Ball College and myself are kindred souls. And what makes us similar, is that we have learned to trust no one. As Greg said, Jenny, you’re like me. We get hold of something, shake it around a bit to see what’s loose about it and see how it works before we’ll accept it.” And with that we laughed and realised how similar our outlooks are. But one thing’s for sure – we’re loners. We like our solitude. Greg doesn’t even own a TV and if it weren’t for my daughter, neither would I. I find modern culture illusory and ephemeral, masquerading as important while all the deeper human truths are overlooked.

It’s taken years of questioning to come back to the simple truths in life which are in fact, more universal than you could ever imagine. The last thing I want to do now, is pollute that clarity with more nonsense that is promulgated by the media telling me I need to buy more things to be happy, more services that are pointless, more techniques that don’t work, more unwholesome foods and pseudo drugs that harm my body and mind and telling me that I need more money than I can possibly use sensibly.

I for one, learned to distrust from an early age. I questioned everything. That questioning took me into some blind alleys and dead ends because while I was looking for the answers out there, I was missing the essential truth that had always resided in me. Until that is I eventually learned to listen to myself for answers, deeply: to practise going inside and facing my fears, facing my heart’s pain, and transforming it into freedom and wellbeing. But it’s most definitely made me a loner. And it’s the same journey, barring the details, that Greg’s been on too.
I commented to him, “You know, Greg, people like us are loners and if we don’t learn to team up, and work together, what we know will just disappear quietly away”.

So we’ve decided, somehow in the new year, Greg’s going to co-present with me one of my Discovery days. We kicked around a few ideas and one that came up big style was:


Now THAT would be something to communicate to ALL our fellow therapists. We want to inspire you to change the way you feel about yourself and how you perceive your work, so that you can more calmly and effectively help other people, or even your clients, feel different about themselves.

I’ll tell you more about it when we’ve firmed up the details.

Meanwhile, get a head start on November 2nd

My next Discovery Day is on 2nd November and we’ll be looking at how to become more authentic in our personal and professional lives. Do you have the date in your diary? Better still, have you booked yourself on yet? There’s just a few weeks to go before the day and, if you’re not already a member, all my super low cost places have gone. But you can still book yourself in for just £57 for the day. If you’re a member, log in and book yourself in on the payment tab for just £37.

And remember, if you’re not a member, Mind membership is now just £7. As a member, you pay only £37 for the Discovery day so it may well be worth subscribing and getting all the audios included on this level, including the audio recordings from the 2nd November Discovery day.

MAKE YOUR LIFE HAPPEN! Don’t wait any longer for someone to deliver a truth to you. You have to seek it out. You have to engage with the process. Book yourself on and start opening up your heart and energy to other people who are on the same journey that you’re on and realise how much strength there is when we develop together. Where you lead, your clients will follow. You owe it to your clients to stay one step ahead of the game, keep your insight fresh and energised, your heart and soul light and open. Join me by clicking here or go to https://www.theopenmindtherapist.com/events/

If you want a bit of a taster for the style of the days the latest audio teleseminar is still sat on the site if you’ve still yet to listen to it. Just click here or go to,
https://theopenmindtherapist.com/free-stuff/teleseminars/ and subscribe to the latest audio.

I would love to receive your feedback on the call. One listener mailed me and said:

“You raised some contentious issues like daring to share and inspiring the client. I believe that when you know the sharing will benefit the client and it comes from the heart it’s ok, though there are so many therapists out there too scared to do it because their training said not.”

Yet another said:

“Was also encouraged to hear that we can change our karma and not only that, but in transforming ourselves, we can help transform others…absolutely beautifully inspired :).”

I’d love to hear your comments. There is a comments box on the replay page. Please feel free to contribute your views. And Join me on 2nd November!


To book onto the authenticity Discovery Day click here or go to: https://www.theopenmindtherapist.com/events/

Jenny has been working as an Integrative Hypnotherapist/psychotherapist for 11 years and has practiced Buddhism for most of her life and is also a Fellow of the National Council of Psychotherapists. After many years of teaching her various courses on integrative therapy for hypnotherapists, which included the now well known course, Unlocking the Mysteries of Chronic Fatigue Syndrome, she is now focussing on the personal and authentic journey of the therapist from all talk modalities. She aims to teach life lessons in intuition, insight, and authenticity for those who are ready to take their work to the next level and demonstrate as well as counsel others, what it is to show up in the world and take charge of your life.


Broadening your therapeutic horizons

You know that I’ve been going through a whole business re-evaluation this summer and it’s really been a huge weight off my shoulders.
Over the last 18 months, I’ve been diligently recording monthly audio teleseminars for a small but select group of Mind level members, (as well as Heart and Soul members) whom I thank.  The aim of the audio lectures I have been giving is to offer a service that broadens our skill set, knowledge and self awareness when it comes to delivering effective and meaningful therapy to our clients.  See https://www.theopenmindtherapist.com/membership/mind/ for more information.
Alongside those audios, I’ve also been interviewing some amazing experts in their respective fields, Matt Sison, Jack Elias, Jure Biechonski, Dr Pradeep Chadha, as well as Rupert Sheldrake about his book ‘The Science Delusion’ which was a real privilege. I can’t even begin to mention them all here but their inspiration to me and time they have given to me to help me inspire you has been phenomenal. (See here if you want to check out all their names).  Each one has brought some form of expertise to help us in our practices as therapists and I’m deeply grateful to them.
So I had to consider what I’m really doing in this business and what my motivation is to record all these audios.  Was I in this to make money or was I in this to help inspire and develop therapists?
The making money felt like my false self, whereas the helping inspire and develop therapists was more my true self.  But the one was bleeding into the other and marring everything I was trying to achieve with my business. I felt inauthentic. I felt, though everyone was telling me how valuable these lessons were, I couldn’t bring myself to feel comfortable with charging £23 a month for them.  And in the last few weeks I’ve realised, I’d rather have 3 of you on the service at just £7 per month than 1 at £23 per month. Call it madness, or call it really realising what these lessons are worth. In human terms they are incredibly valuable and I want more and more people to be inspired and to grow from them.
That is where the value is for me.  I know, the more I allow myself to get excited by and enjoy the real human value of this service, then that will be reflected in the financial value.  In Buddhism we call it the law of cause and effect.  In more common and popular parlance it’s the law of attraction.  Bring yourself into alignment with your true mission and purpose and you will attract to you everything you need to continue to grow that mission and purpose.
This autumn, I’ll also be adding as much audio as I can from my live training days so that you can get to listen to content of these discovery days.
There’s a new video up on the Mind membership page so take a look.   Meanwhile, here’s to your continued success!

Changing Karma and becoming Authentic as a Therapist

Coming home to me
Remember I said last time I’ve been practising Buddhism all these years, overcoming all kinds of challenges and impasses?  Well, while I’ve been busily teaching my unique personal lessons in psychotherapy and hypnotherapy, there’s been one massive area of my life I’ve overlooked.  And that is my own buddhist journey over nearly 30 years.
I’m almost embarrassed to write to you to admit this.  The one thing that I’ve used that has kept me centred, like my own personal tiller, has been my daily practice of ‘coming home’ to me. 
Transforming life’s inevitable pain into valuable lessons
I’ve learned over the years how to take the pain of my challenges right into my heart, feel them, live them, then transform them into useable lessons for myself and others.  Let me just give you one example.
About a year after moving into my little house in Dunmow, I made a determination one new year to become ‘absolutely happy’.  Now that isn’t a naive aspiration.  In buddhism, being ‘absolutely happy’ does not mean I’ll never have any challenges again.  It just means I’ll have faith deep enough to know I can deal with all things and produce a positive outcome for myself and others.  So I chanted to be absolutely happy.
What is real Happiness?
As I did, all the things that were creating unhappiness came into sharp focus. There were lots of things that needed to change.  I felt burdened by my relationship, though I couldn’t say that anything was particularly wrong, except I wasn’t happy.  I felt burdened by my work and home not being all in one place anymore which was a complication I could have done without being alone with my 10 year old daughter.  These were just a few of the superficial effects of me not trusting that I could really take control of my life and make it as I wanted it.  So I sat with the discomfort of realising that taking charge of my life meant then I had to address certain elements that were not working for me.  I went into a period of quiet and reflective meditation.  If I had no blocks to being truly me, what would my life look like?  It was scary, depressing, and slightly exciting to imagine.  But I worked and waded through it and by the August everything had dramatically changed.
And that is also the process I’ve come through this summer.  There had to be another way to fully express me to the people I really wanted to attract to me.  And I realised that my authenticity in my marketing message had to be absolutely central.  No more sound bites from other people offering their latest marketing initiative.  It had to be about me showing you who I really am: scary, depressing and becoming more exciting by the minute!
How can you benefit? And how can you pass these lessons onto your clients?
The response to last week’s emails and blogs has been absolutely phenomenal.  I’ve had people contact me I’ve not seen for years, people subscribe to the courses weeks in advance, people leave testimonials, and more and more interest about my work now than ever before!  Thank you. Last Friday at my Dunmow Soul Group meeting I taught directly a process I use every time I arrive at another layer I need to peel off to being authentically me.  It was liberating to show them the process and to see how much they got from it.  And they can use that directly with their clients this week.
If you’re ready to get underneath your next layer of awareness and learn how to transmit your learning to your clients, then please join me.
Changing Karma is our challenge to being authentic
Tomorrow (19th September) at 3pm BST I’ll be talking about How we change our Karma, even, what Karma is, and how that brings us to our own authenticity.  It’s broadly the theme we’ll be working with on both of my autumn Discovery Days on 28th September and 2nd November (book yourself in on at www.theopenmindtherapist.com/events/).  Becoming truly you and attracting to you the good fortune you really deserve is our focus.  I’ll share with you tomorrow, the lessons I’ve learned over many years of buddhist practice about peeling off the layers and revealing more and more of your authentic selves. And as you reveal your humanity then you will reach your clients at an energetic level that is in itself, transformative. 
The dial in details are:

From the UK: 0844 473 0533 –  PIN 118972
If you’re dialling from abroad or from skype, leave me a comment below and I may
be able to give you a local number to dial in from.
And go to my video blog to hear a bit more about it.
Thanks again.  Look forward to having you on the call tomorrow.  Make sure you put it in your diaries and join me just a couple of minutes before we start to make sure you get to listen to all of it.
To read more about the Discovery Days go to www.theopenmindtherapist.com/events/

How I did my personal development this summer


Sharing our mission and purpose as a therapist
One of my biggest lessons this summer has been to realise what really motivates me, and I can tell you, it is simply not money.  My business coach was floored when I said I couldn’t work with a money target in mind.  What else, then, was there to aim for?
So as you probably know if you’ve seen my latest video blog , I set about asking myself ‘why’: if not for money then why was I doing all this?  I got my answer which I explain below, but it didn’t fit neatly into all those sound bites that you hear on the internet, “a mouse click away from $1000”, or “simple changes to your site can double your income” – and one comment in particular that resonated in my head over and over came from one of these books on ‘getting rich quick’ that I’d tried to wade through earlier in the year.  I read that those people who say that they’re not motivated by money are people who haven’t got any to shout about!  Well, they’re right there!  And for a while, I let a fear nestle inside me that this particular commentator had ‘seen straight through me’.  Was I just making excuses to myself? 
What really motivates most therapists?

It’s an interesting thought that in the therapy industry in particular, money is generally not a huge motivator to working.  Of course, we all want to earn a living, and in particular, not have to worry about whether we’ll have clients next month or not, but money generally speaking, is a welcome and if not even, an essential by-product of our expertise but not our primary motivator.

According to Daniel Pink, author of ‘Drive’, the trend of current investigations into what motivates people to work, demonstrates that people in our industry, in particular, are more likely to have an intrinsic motivation to wanting to work that is based upon our personal values and ethics, our sense of mission, and our desire to live out our life’s purpose

Valuing our own journey
Which is where my own realisation has been leading me. Through all the courses and all my activities to educate and support my fellow therapists over the years, I’d struggled inherently with my own self worth and, at times, how that equated with money.  The fact that when students arrived and had a phenomenal learning experience and then went on to demand more from me never seemed to really translate into my own inner peace with what I was teaching.  I really have felt in so many ways, that everything I have taught has been taught before, (was therefore not original or ‘valuable’) and, unless I made it extra special, I was in danger of just regurgitating other people’s ‘stuff’.  This deeper fear has caused me to put my heart and soul into my work to make sure that students and colleagues get a first class training, supervision or learning experience.  And the majority have given absolutely amazing feedback. And yet, really coming out and teaching my own personal lessons in life has been a huge block: How could my experiences and my personal processes be valuable?  And yet, it was largely only the element of personal experiences, perspective and processes that I shared through my courses that made the lessons valuable.  It was a paradox I was just too close to, to be able to tease apart the essential lesson from.
Becoming authentic needs self acceptance
So where does that lead me now? Though my integrity in my courses and classes is evident regardless of its content, I saw this summer, that I’ve even more to teach that I didn’t realise.  It HAS all been taught by other people before.  That is almost an inescapable truth.  But now I feel I’m sharing my deeper experience of transformation and growth that, to some of you, will be absolutely vital to where you are now on your journey to becoming authentic.  As it’s my personal growth experience I want to share, I’ve decided to accept exactly where I am and how I got here, precisely so that I can share the milestones in my journey with you.   In sharing my journey, in allowing you to see my vulnerability, I’m realising what is of real worth and value is our common humanity and how we can support each other to more and more awakening and authenticity, not just for our clients, though that’s an important and significant by-product, but because we must walk our talk and learn too to find the self acceptance, peace of mind and a sense of belonging that we encourage our clients to live.  And I would love to be part of the next stage in your journey.

Please join me on 28th September or 2nd November for one of my Discovery Days fortherapists, counsellors, hypnotherapists, psychologists and psychiatrists ondeveloping your authenticity as a therapist and we will explore our own hearts, minds and souls.  Most of what you learn you will be able to translate to your client/patient work so bring your sense of adventure with you and your Open Mind so you can absorb as much as possible from the day to pass on.  I have some exercises I have quietly developed as an adjunct to my Buddhist practice that I realise I use all the time to get me past my blocks, and I’ve been using them big time this summer.  I’ll also share with you how this very process can turn around even physical issues as it did with me last autumn.  I’ll also be sharing the wise words of some extremely enlightened authors whose insightful books promote and encourage healing at much deeper levels.

If you’re a Soul Member, this course is included in your subscription.  In other words, you pay nothing extra for the course.  You decide if you want to learn, assist or even co present.  I’m happy to discuss that with you.

If you’re one of the first few to subscribe, then you may be in time to get one of the 4 places for only £37.  The rest to 12 are at £57.  Heart and Soul members can sign up for £37.  Just email me and let me know.

Looking forward to working with a great group of people.  Details and booking are all onhttps://www.theopenmindtherapist.com/events


Authentically me?

I’ve been quietly reflecting in my little house in Essex bemoaning the fact that I haven’t yet delivered the goods for my business coach, that I haven’t yet got on top of all that really needs to be done to expand the business and all the while, I have ringing in my ears, words from my closest followers saying:

“Jenny, you really should be more successful than you are!”.

What actually does that mean? What does it mean to be successful? This is what I’ve been in a practically meditative state for the last 6 weeks about and slowly the inner story is unravelling.

And allow me a diversion: it was all summarised in a phone call I had with one of my Soul Group Members who, when I said I really wasn’t a vegetarian, laughed and retorted wryly: “To be honest, when I saw you tucking into a ham salad at Group the other week, I thought to myself, ‘isn’t Jenny a vegetarian?’ We laughed and I quizzed why the hell everyone I damn well meet thinks I must be a vegetarian! I just didn’t and really, to be honest, still don’t understand how I project that kind of energy. All I know is that I do. Mix that with another ‘accusation’ that often comes my way: “Jenny, you are very spirtiual.” and here we have my conundrum.

How can I be successful at anything, if something that is essential to who I am, the very energy I give out, I’m not appreciating or using? And I realise as a result of this that I’ve been living certain aspects of my business from the outside in: let me explain.

When I went into business around 11 years ago, I’d had an epiphany towards the end of my training which meant I lost my fear of almost everything and just went at my new business with a level of faith that all would be fine.  I could see into the lives of my clients with a penetrating clarity, I could see them underneath all the rubbish they believed about themselves, and I worked heart felt to show them who they really were.  The only reason I could do this was because I’d seen and perceived myself underneath everything I used to think I was, and realised I was just human and nothing extraordinary – certainly not the ugly or fraudulent person that many of us think we are.  However, what I didn’t realise was that the ability to see that clearly, was indeed extraordinary.  While the initial epiphany created an almost zen like inner calm, after a few years, it established itself as just my base level of insight.  I didn’t have to work at it.  It just was how I had become.

It sounds as I write, like it was created by some meditative or spiritual state from which I emerged renewed.  But in fact, it came from some of my life’s greatest sufferings and torments.  I was sick of the way I was.  I was sick of the complaint, the helplessness, the sadness and the anger and I decided I would do what it took to change the way I perceived myself and my environment.  As I was ready for the change, the opportunity for change materialised in my environment.  It was a simple future progression, conducted by an inexperienced therapist on my second year of training that gave me that opportunity.  To this day, she probably doesn’t realise that that was the start of a new me.

I saw myself in that session in a future life completely calm and composed.  From that perspective, everything I used to feel just seemed small and ridiculous and I really had no need to keep reliving those dramas every day.  The insight profoundly changed the way I felt about people, my family, my work and my life.  From my future perspective, I realised I already had the capacity within me to see clearly and to not be tarnished by the living ghosts of my past, which I could now simply drop.  There was a deep sense of sadness at how I hadn’t honoured myself properly in the past, and a determination to stay absolutely central to my life and my life’s purpose.  In Buddhism we call this insight ‘zange’ which loosely translates as an ‘apology’. I was still aware of my programming: I could see it, like a film and yet still profoundly appreciate the deeper aspect of who I was.

These are my gifts.  These are things I am really good at.  However, despite that fact, I was still aware that my work would be better valued and validated by doctors, psychiatrists and the world of psychotherapy, if I didn’t advertise the whole ‘spiritual’ or ‘experiential’ nature of my work.  While I use the term ‘spiritual’ at times, I’m always careful to define it so that I don’t attract the new age, spiritual movement which can often, leave me feeling quite cold, especially when I meet people who I can sense are living from the outside in.  By that I mean people who use jargon that demonstrates they belong to that club, but not really understanding what those terms really mean to them, let alone what they mean to others.  I’m also a vehement anti buddhist jargonist, much to my fellow buddhists’ dismay at times, as I find real meaning gets lost in words and concepts that are way too high brow, learned or ‘out there’ to be relevant ‘in here’.

Spirituality for me, I have learned is really quite mundane. It’s all about just knowing and feeling life without interpreting it through other people’s words or other people’s conceptual filters.  It’s about being authentic and living in the here and now and having a curiosity and love for life that makes each day a beautiful new awakening.  And yet, here am I, anxious about being that whole person among my larger peer group.  Worried about not fitting in, or not being taken seriously…..the origin of which stems back to the unique circumstances of my childhood, my family and the mores of our culture.  Something is rotten in the state of Denmark, methinks!

So this is where I realised slowly over the last 6 weeks, I’ve been living from the outside in when it comes to my business.  And that’s because I need to confront my fear of being fully known for who I really am.  My intimates, some of my treasured colleagues and supervisees, get the full picture.  But when it comes to being me out there, I’ve been hiding.

As I’m writing I’m feeling a clarity I haven’t felt for some time.  I’m feeling a certainty at my core that this is what I need to do now.  You’ll hear more about my journey and how I’ve come to use my unique personal experience in my therapy career: my goal being to show you how to realise the value of YOUR experiences and how to value you.  The strap line on my site says, ‘Realising your true value’.  That’s what I promised to do when I set out in this training and supervision business.  And it’s something I want to share with you.


Do you have an Open Mind?

Open Mind – Supporting and Developing your Hypnotherapy practice
hypnotherapy trainingIf you’ve ever wondered how you might get to see more than half a dozen or a dozen clients a week without doing tons of prep and loads of writing up after, you may find my proposition at the Open Mind Therapist.com useful.  Coming to a group meeting and experiencing what’s on offer in terms of personal and professional development, career progression and professional support and supervision is your first step towards learning how to work more intuitively and creatively.  And what’s more, the first time you meet with us there is no charge.  The reason for that?  I know that many part with money up front and then are sorely disappointed by the training experience they receive, while others thought it was great.  How can the same course elicit such opposite experiences?  The truth is, I guess, people are all different and of course, not everything you see marketed and advertised lives up to its promise.  So I simply want you to come and try us out with no obligation.  If you like how we work and you fit in with us, then you are welcome to subscribe and join with our growing number of Open Mind Therapists who are Hypnotherapists with a difference. 
If you feel you fit in to one of these categories, you may find one of our groups beneficial:
  1. Fresh in practice and still finding your feet
  2. In practice a year or 2 and still not feeling settled nor busy enough to make a living
  3. In practice perhaps many years but unable to find a truly integrative or eclectic supervisor who can advise on the diverse range of clients you see.
One of my trainees turned supervisee commented that he’d come to train with me in my CPD course in ME/CFS to specialise because he found the prep for all the different cases he was managing far too time consuming.  He wanted a predictable type of client that he could offer a strict protocol to.  He was surprised when I said I have none.  What he learned instead was how to be intuitive, use his existing knowledge much more creatively, and to take the anticipation out of meeting clients.  When he joined my supervision/career development groups he received 6 weekly support, advice, personal development and career progression that supported his practice and turned him into a full time integrative hypnotherapist with a waiting list…even through the recession.  And the secret?  He learned how to read his client and be far more flexible and intuitive in his approach.  The benefits of this of course are a deeper confidence, less prep, and more clients!
If you’re wanting to add skills, gain a holistic view of your clients issues, treat according to their needs, to feel more confident and to find your feet in your practice, then our groups could be a great springboard for you to learn how to do just that.
Join me on 23rd March or our next meeting on 4th May at The Millfield Arts Centre, Edmonton North London.  Or alternatively, on 30th March or 18th May in Saracen’s Head Hotel, Great Dunmow from 10 till 2:30pm.  To register with us and to find out more go to https://www.theopenmindtherapist.com
Jenny is a fellow and an accredited trainer and supervisor for the National Council of Psychotherapists, a member of the BACP and a supervisor for the Hypnotherapy Association.  She has been offering integrative training and supervision to hypnotherapists for around 8 of her 11 years as a practising therapist bringing with her her former teaching experience and her 30 years of buddhist practice.  Committed to therapist personal and professional development, Jenny has been running the The Open Mind Therapist.com website for just over a year and is attracting a growing number of hypno and psychotherapists who want to learn to work more intuitively and integratively

I’ve been galivanting about!

The bedraggled of Winterburn, Gargrave

I’ve been in lots of different places in the last fortnight starting with my first London Soul Group meeting on 10th February which was a great success and I’m so looking forward to developing this group more.  Our next meeting is on 23rd March and for more information just go straight to the home page. That was rapidly followed by a holiday in the Yorkshire Dales at the tale end of the snows! There we are, our motley collection of a family! Having spent the week laughing till my sides were splitting, I was then left in the City of my youth, Liverpool to visit some long lost friends and my good friend Tony Cawley who’s also done a teleseminar with me.  The reason I stayed ‘up North’ while my family travelled back was to attend the first meeting as a fellow of the National Council of Psychotherapists under their new leadership, Ray Freeman.

Ray is an ex college lecturer as well as therapist and understands the importance of educational qualifications as delivered by schools, colleges and universities as well as our professional training which is largely delivered by those of us already in the field.  Ray has pulled together a team of people who  understand the importance of business as well as the importance of education and together we are looking into the future to be  one of the first professional organisations in the hypno-psychotherapy world who will be using external validators such as the government regulators, OfQual, to lend academic as well as experiential cudos to our qualifications.  Now I’m not one for jumping through hoops and compromising on quality of experience for bits of paper that may mean nothing…..but then, so far, it looks like none of my compatriot Fellows of the NCP are either, which can only bode well.  We are keen to be seen as the leading organisation in our field with standards that we can uphold and an integrity of training that our accredited member schools can deliver, and with qualifications that can contribute to further academic education or indeed constitute an academic award in themselves.  That is exciting in itself and I will be taking an active part in developing our integrity of service.  I’ll talk another time about levels of membership and which level of membership may suit you or how you might qualify for membership.  In the meantime, watch this space.

And just this morning, I’ve delivered, for the second time around, my ‘Journey of a lifetime’ presentation to my fellow business networkers in Enfield, North London which tracks my 30 years as a buddhist and the 3 biggest turning points in my life.  If you’re a 4networking aficionado, join me in St Alban’s this Thursday where I will be delivering it again.  The feedback this time was that  people felt calm at the end of the talk, inspired, and uplifted.  Many can identify with my struggles of course, which is a great leveller when operating in the business world where we may feel that how we appear is more important than who we are.  But at the end of the day, we tend to make all sorts of decisions about our careers and lifestyles on an emotional level which will of course, mean we need to sense a person’s integrity in their business endeavours. 

To all fellow therapists who have landed on this post,  who are still struggling with their own sense of integrity in their business, please get in touch.  I can help you develop your career, provide guidance and inspiration and  make your initial training, which may have cost many hundreds if not thousands of pounds, more valuable to you than you realised.  Either sign up for my free membership level or come along  to my next North London hypnotherapist and psychotherapist supervision and career development meeting on 23rd March. Or email me.



Are you cut out to be a therapist?

What made you go into therapy?  Were you thinking ‘how else can I earn money’?  Did you fancy doing something different?  Did you have a passion for healing?  Did you fancy just working for yourself? Or was it just the toss of a coin that decided you?

Was your career choice made by flipping a coin?

It may come as no surprise that many people are quite confused about what they are in the therapy world for.  On the one hand they want to heal people, on the other they want to earn money.  And often those two instincts appear to be almost diametrically at odds with each other.  Therapists may spend several years trying to run a business that is, quite honestly, unprofitable but something stops them asking for more money or more clients.

Why is that?  This is what I’ve seen.  I often realise on talking to colleagues new to the Open Mind way that a lot of our desire to heal others, is also to put right the wrongs of our own histories.  On some level or another, often quite unconscious – despite the fact we are trained to access the subconscious minds of our clients – therapists are still striving to find equilibrium in themselves and to quieten their aching souls.  Several supervisees have mentioned to me over the years that they feel like a fraud when they work with clients whose ‘stuff’ so closely resonates with their own.  And these therapists are the lucky ones.  They recognise the source of their own performance anxiety.  Many have yet to get there.

Our healing comes, as we teach others how to heal themselves.  Put another way, in order to help others out of their psychic impasses in their lives, we have to do it ourselves first.  If therapists aren’t prepared to acknowledge that their own personal development is probably the most important investment they’ll ever make into their therapy practice, then I sometimes wonder what is the point trying to advertise and raise your reputation and profile.  It becomes the paper tiger approach to therap-ing.  The outside in approach.  The ‘I-can-see-the-lights-are-on-but-there’s-no-one-at-home’ syndrome.

Some people call me or write to me to ask me what I can offer them, or why I might be different to anyone else.  Some just call because they’ve seen my site and want to know a bit more about how I can help them in their practices.  However, it seems to me that if a hypnotherapist isn’t prepared to look inside themselves to heal their own inner reality, then all the techniques or strategies in the world are rendered pretty ineffectual.  So what do I offer?  The opportunity to relate on a deeply human level.  Supported by my Buddhist practice of nearly 30 years, the ethos of Open Mind is to reach into our own hearts and minds to heal and transform our reality.  If we can do it for ourselves, then we know it is possible for others to do it too.  It’s only when we’ve not yet done it for ourselves, do we suffer these performance anxieties that send us scampering to our colleagues to find safety in numbers.

Using our supervision and mentorship groups as a base to ‘come home to’ many of our Open Mind therapists are finding a deeper inner confidence and are learning to trust their own instincts and intuition.  If you would like to join a group of us our next one will be on 15th June in the Millfield Arts Centre in Edmonton, North London.  You can register for it on the home page.  Meanwhile, give me a call on 07773 919071 or send me an email and tell me what it is in your practice you are looking for.  If I hear what your particular unique issue is, then I’ll be able to better advise you on the route to take to improve your sense of wellbeing, your client numbers, and your profitability.


Our personal journey as therapists

Generally speaking people learn when they DO something: here’s the age-old saying oft quoted in teacher staff rooms

Tell me and I’ll forget
Show me and I may remember
Involve me and I’ll understand

When it comes to working as a therapist, we need to have been involved deeply in our own journey as healers, healing and healed to be able to understand the twists and turns in the journey we ask our clients to make. This is where our performance anxiety truly stems from: on a deeper level we sense in ourselves the same kinds of anxieties our clients have. How can I heal my client if I haven’t healed myself? This is the question that many hypnotherapists, psychotherapists, and coaches wrestle with in their practices.

We may have listened to our lectures, we may have witnessed a few demonstrations, but until we have embarked on the whole journey ourselves, we may come over as inauthentic and lacking in skill and personal confidence. That may also mean, we have to face our fear of exposure in our classes, our teaching and learning groups, and our general lives. If I can’t find my inner peace in amongst the ‘noise and haste’ of my every day life, how can I rely upon my inner self to guide me when I really need it?

Many sit back and DO nothing about their fears. They continue to blame seemingly external causes for their inner turmoil or lack of success. But the truth is, there is only one cause of inner turmoil, and that is not having the courage to take our own personal inventory.

As shiny and superficial as the world may appear at times with its hedonistic emphasis on outward appearances, there is a simultaneous undercurrent of a movement which is looking for the deeply authentic, the real, the meaningful. It’s almost as if, as a society, we need the authentic the more emphasis is placed on the superficial and frivolous. A bit like the spiritual equivalent of ‘supersize v superskinny’: a spiritual famine or feast.

Training with me at Open Mind means we look for the authentic. We are searching for the unique gift that each therapist or coach brings to their practice: their personality, their style, and their experience. There is no prescriptive way to practice working in the healing arts: each one of us is individual. And if you are looking to find more about who you are in your practice, think about joining us on my Soul level membership. Take a look.

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