We all had an amazing day last Friday….never long enough these intensives! Just want to carry on training and sharing all weekend. I think there’s an argument there somewhere for a 3 day residential in a retreat somewhere, wouldn’t you say?

If you were there, you’ll have experienced that I love working inclusively. From the moment someone walks in the room to the moment they leave, their learning experience is my pleasure and I work to achieve a relaxed and intimate space for the therapist to grow and share. You’ll know there’s nothing wishy washy about that though – I’m not going to nod my head in the right places and pay lip service to someone’s questions. I will answer them honestly, sometimes challengingly, and, as I’ve just been called on a forum, candidly, ingenously and thoroughly – but with always one goal in mind: to encourage people to experience something of great value to them and their clients.
Here’s some of the feedback that came through from last Friday:

“Thank you. It has given me some new perspectives and ideas to think about, as well as techniques I will use with clients’ Chris Claytor NLP Practitioner, Hypnotherapist www.achievewithnlp.co.uk

“I have more awareness of myself and an even better awareness of the client.  I’m going away with a few good techniques too!” Linda Blacker www.hypnosisforhealth.co.uk

“I have reflected on my role in the process, the clients role and whether or not they want to participate in therapy. I realise now that the client may benefit from some exploration rather than just suggestion hypnotherapy, for example with weight loss” Irene Smith, hypnotherapist www.ceratocentre.com

I’ve also a couple of videos of some of my participants which they’ve given me their kind permission to host.  When they arrive, I’ll post again!

I have gained a subscriber to my course in the autumn from this group and am looking for minimum 6 in the group.  If you would like to find out more about training with me on this course at Open Mind go to https://theopenmindtherapist.com/read-your-client.html.  Feel free to email me with any questions or if you’re new to Open Mind go to the home page and download your free Read Your Client ebook.

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Do you ever self disclose?

You know, you’ve probably got a raft of techniques you’ve learned from your original training, from CPDs, and from forums and colleagues. But still you’re wondering why some work with some people and not with others. Why would one approach be more effective than another?

Adding Depth to your hypnotherapy practice

If you’re growing a busy therapy practice, or even if you’re just starting out, you’ll want to keep your further investment to a minimum: Perhaps you have no spare time because you’re working flat out with prep and clients, or perhaps you just want to see how you get on with a few clients each week. Either way, time or money may be a factor in what you decide to study. I can help you reduce your prep and add insight into you hypnotherapy practice if you choose to engage in the Monthly Counselling and Psychotherapy programme I offer.

Each month you can receive a 1 hour lecture in various aspects of counselling and psychotherapy for the silly price of just £15 per month! If you missed any of them, they’re all there in the members area archived so you will never miss out on a lecture that has already passed.

On 3rd August my next Mind Level Teleseminar is about self disclosure and challenging your clients. So many psychotherapy and hypnotherapy schools insist that you should never self disclose as the therapeutic relationship needs to remain untarnished by your own stuff. The official line goes that the client needs to feel free to express themselves without you interfering with stories of your own. However, have you ever tried to talk to a therapist who never self discloses? It can be like facing a wall of intransigence as platitude after platitude is delivered: “that must be difficult for you”, or “it’s not about me it’s about you” – personally? I could sometimes just punch someone who isn’t prepared to be human with me!

On this call I’ll show you how to self disclose but more importantly why it’s important at times. I’ll also show you how to challenge your clients and I’ll be drawing on a rich case load of my own to illustrate how you can do it effectively.

On Mind Level what’s more, if you wanted to listen to any of my guest teleseminar speakers again, they’re all archived there in the members area: Some of my past speakers have been: 

  • Patrick Dieter – Alcoholism specialist with a spiritual perspective from the US:
  • Jack Elias – Hypnotherapist and NLPer and Buddhist also from the US:
  • Matt Sison – Regression Hypnotherapist from the US shares his transpersonal insights:
  • David Moat – Working with Autism Transpersonally:
  • Sue Cook – Working with Autism through physical movement.
  • Jure Biechonski – When the Body speaks, Listen! Psychoneuroimmunology in Hypnotherapy.

There’s also one from me in there on using Buddhism in your hypnotherapy practice.

In fact there is now a whole wealth of experience building up in the membership banks that you can have access to, and study as much as you like, when it suits you. And for just £15 per month it really is a no brainer. That’s no more than a round of drinks and at today’s prices not even half a tank of petrol! And the benefits will just keep coming in. Learning more skills is not always about learning more techniques: it’s about gaining a framework, a structure, within which to operate that creates calm and perspective in you, let alone your clients. Why not give it a go. Click here  to read more about it.

Remember, to study this on your own from books and then to make sense of it and use it, could take you hours and even months if you join a course. I’ve done all that for you. I’ll give you an essential and practical, working insight into both these approaches in 1 hour that will help you make sense of your hypnotherapy practice.  Click here to join me.

Mark Reader – Practice Building for the Hypnotherapist

My next Teleseminar guest is Mark Reader who will be talking to us about Practice Building from a marketing perspective.  How to build your practice and attract more clients! Take a look

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Worrying about your clients again?

Today’s email: 6th July 2011 –
You’ve opened this email because you know this is you! It was me. New in practice I worried whether what I’d done was right or appropriate, whether I’d missed something, whether the client had taken offence at something I’d said. The list went on. I can still remember my first smoking cessation client who had chronic migraines and all sorts of issues going on, but still he wanted to give up smoking! Talk about kick the stick away from a cripple! I had him for around 4 sessions, realised that his migraines were repressed anger, (for what use it did him) but still he wanted to stop smoking. So eventually, I just did the whizzy whiz thing and zapped him…successfully? Who knows. I cringe when I think of my first half dozen or more clients.

However, I was lucky to have an amazing teacher and a sound buddhist practice behind me which meant I’ve never rested in looking to understand the bigger picture. Once it started to develop about 6 months into my practice, I realised I was having success with a particular client group: the chronic fatiguers and the GP’s were referring like I was the best thing since sliced bread. Noticing patterns that spanned almost every case I was working with I started to develop a much broader and more inclusive and integrative way of looking at CFS till I realised I could train my colleagues in the same way.

However, what I saw from my first couple of training experiences was that the self doubt and confusion that I’d experienced in the first 3 or 4 months of my practice could sometimes stay with hypnotherapists for years! In fact, it is probably what stops many people ever really getting started. I asked myself “Why is that?”

I realised from my classes it was because many felt lost with a handful of techniques, cut adrift with no ongoing support, and no real psychological underpinning or real insight into their own fears and anxieties.

So after a few years of professional expansion, I decided to offer Psychological or psychotherapeutic underpinning for the hypnotherapist who wanted to gain more inner confidence and to never be lost with their clients again.

Join me, for just one intensive day on 15th July, and discover how you could enhance your practice and build a much more solid foundation. Not only will you learn about styles, approaches and even techniques, you’ll realise that you can sit much more comfortably in the therapist’s chair and therefore earn more money! For just £69 for one or £99 if you bring a colleague with you, it is a bargain that you cannot afford to miss!

Ultimately, I’m looking for people who want to study more with me in the autumn. However, there is absolutely no obligation if you join me for this one day intensive on 15th July. All you need to do is follow the link and make your subscription! https://theopenmindtherapist.com/events/intensive-read-your-client/

Don’t want to go back to basics with your psychotherapy training?

You don’t have to go back to scratch to add psychotherapy skills to your hypnotherapy practice. I’ll show you how to develop the skills, while still practising hypnotherapy and learning every step of the way. If you want some evidence that it can be done, come on my one day intensive on 15th July. Join me by going to https://theopenmindtherapist.com/events/intensive-read-your-client/

Happy theraping!

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Bryony's 15th - those are boys on the Sofa!

I had two good reasons to celebrate last weekend: one, it was my daughter’s 15th birthday Friday and I welcomed assorted emo teenagers into our home Friday night for a barbecue/guitar hero party!  (The other one I’ll talk about in another post.) They’re all quite harmless really but they look worse than they are!  The motley assortment of long hair over the eye and black eye kohl faces are a sight to behold.  They know me.  They kinda would include me if I made them! But just like a small but significant herd of sheep, all they need now and again is a nudge in the right direction from a loud but benign mother sheepdog!  So me and my friend sloped off into the warm and sultry evening (just outside the back door) with our bottles of cider and discussed life the universe and everything…until they all spilled out into the street to say goodbye to each other leaving just one victim, erm, I mean, friend to stay with us for a sleepover.  So while I went to bed around 12.30am, they then decided it would be a good idea to watch a video! Youth eh?  Can you guess which one is mine?

Oneness of self and environment

However, one of the greatest developments for my daughter these last few months is her newfound ability to not worry what other people are thinking of her.  She has gained an inner confidence and surety about herself which means most of the time she’s much more happy.  Teenage years are challenging at the best of times, so I was so pleased to hear her describe her realisation which has given her such peace of mind.  Some of her development has mirrored a change in me which accords with the buddhist concept of oneness of self and environment which I continually try and educate my clients about. That is, our children are a product of ourselves and if we want our children to grow and change, we need to work on ourselves first.  

My growth has been launching this online business earlier this year which was a huge challenge.  Knowing that I’m delivering value to those that choose to subscribe was of huge importance to me.  While I wanted to gain a steady income from working this way, my promise to my students and supervisees is that they get the best of me and my work and that they can use the benefit in all ways in their lives.  Making no severence between who I am at home and who I am in my therapy practice, what I learn about me, directly translates to how I treat my clients.  If I have blocks in my consciousness, I won’t be able to see my clients issues clearly: that is, I can only take my clients as far as I have come myself.  So clearing out another block to the growth of my business was a painful but essential part of my growth earlier this year.

Only some of the people some of the time….

I realised that I couldn’t please all of the people all of the time. Nor could I please all of the people some of the time.  I’ve had to settle for pleasing some of the people some of the time, and even in my chosen elite group in Soul membership, all of the people ‘only’ most of the time.  So I’ve had to grow to realise that if I’m going to reach all the people who want to join me, there’ll be a large majority who I put myself in front of, to whom my way of working may not appeal right now or may never appeal.  These realisations have created a shift in me….a shift that you’ll probably be experiencing if you’re on my email list and are following my work even if you’ve not consciously realised it.  That shift is a philosophical shrug at the inevitable knock backs, and a strong faith that the direction I’m going in is right for my business, my Students and my CPDers.

Pushing outside of my comfort zone

Curious how I have a very comfortable, easy approach with my clients and their personal development which was directly born of my having to face challenges in the past that were thrust upon me.  And that’s because these experiences illuminated by my buddhist practice and my therapy training, taught me how to understand the human condition and to take things in my stride.  However, this time, I’m deliberately placing myself in the way of challenges; inviting judgement, inviting comment from others, inviting evaluation from others, pushing outside of my comfort zone and continually learning I’m more than I thought I was.

This is all part of my buddhist practice – my personal development – my journey to creating as much value as I can in my life for me and all those whose lives I touch.  It’s a journey I’m incredibly proud to be making.  I want to share the benefits of that journey with you.  Consider coming on my one day intensive on 15th July where I’ll share some insights that could profoundly change the way you see your therapy practice.  You may even find that you want to join my growing movement of Open Mind Therapists by subscribing to one of my membership levels, two of which – Mind and Heart, you can access from anywhere in the world.

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Do you sometimes feel a fraud?

When I first went into training to become an integrative therapist, I remember saying to 2 assistant therapists on my course who were a couple of years ahead of me, that I thought I’d sorted out most of my issues. They snuck a not insignificant look at each other. I felt quietly mad and anxious to prove that I didn’t have stuff. However, they were right. I was wrong. I had stuff. Loads of it. All I’d learned was how to operate within the mostly unconscious limitations I’d set myself.

Now I know there’s no such thing as having sorted out most of your issues. What I can say however, is that I’ve learned how to take responsibility for them by becoming resourceful and conscious of their subtext in my life. This means I am mastering my own mind and not letting my mind master me. (That’s a Buddhist concept by the way!) Sometimes I even just let them be there just so I can sneak an extra long look at them and determine to do something about them when I find the inclination! The result is I can sit in my therapy chair and just know what is my stuff and what is the clients. I can use my fallibility as a human being to relate to my clients and ultimately to my CPD students, supervisees and followers without getting mixed up in their stuff.

When you realise that all you have to do is be authentically you, warts and all, you can achieve anything, you can deal with anything, and you can build a successful hypnotherapy practice which doesn’t consume your every waking moment. A lot of our performance anxieties are around feeling inauthentic, or a fraud or not well enough qualified. The problem is, those fears are in control of you all the while you try to ignore them. Why not take a moral inventory of yourself and ask: ‘What is really stopping me feeling relaxed and confident as a hypnotherapist?’ The answer needs to be about you, not about the force field around you. You can create your reality just the way you want it your only limitation is your ability to wake up and take responsibility for it.

If you’re serious about your personal and professional development come on my one day intensive on 15th July. I’ve kept the price really low just so that you can afford to come and sample what I can offer you. Many of my students report feeling alive and inspired at the end of the day – just take a look at Linda and Steve’s video testimonials on my blog. This was just a 4 hour meeting of supervision and CPD. My intensive training days will show you all sorts of insights and cohesiveness you didn’t realise you needed….but once seen, you can never go back! You can never go back to not knowing something once you’ve realised it. Take a risk and join me. It will cost you only around 1 hour of your income from a client – and it’ll give you so much more in return. Go to https://theopenmindtherapist.com/events/intensive-read-your-client/
See you there!

More feedback!
You must think I get an endless supply of feedback….well I suppose in some respects I do both positive and negative but it’s not always as direct as the one that came through today. Hilary decided to write to me out of the blue! I answered and asked her to clarify how training and supervision with me had affected her client numbers and reputation. Here’s what she said.

In life we are sometimes lucky enough to meet people that inspire us and help us grow. For me, Jenny is one of them. I feel so fortunate to have trained with Jenny on the CFS course and she has been my personal supervisor for over 2 years now. I love my work as a therapist and owe Jenny for the ability to sit comfortably in the same space as my client and listen, listen and listen for what the client is not saying. Since I have let go of the fear of my own feelings in the therapy room I feel like the butterfly who has emerged from the chrysalis. Thank you Jenny

And after my enquiry to her:

I just feel that I’m flying now and I’ve let go of a lot of the insecurities I had before meeting you. You confirmed for me that it’s ok to work from the heart , it’s ok to say nothing (I don’t fill the silences anymore!big change!) , it’s ok to be me and say it as it is….I’m going on bit now! What has it done for me? Well for a start I don’t advertise yet I get a steady stream of recommendations, so I must be doing something right! Thanks! http://positivenewyou.co.uk/
Well done Hilary. Glad it’s all working for you.

Don’t want to go back to basics with your psychotherapy training?
You don’t have to go back to scratch to add psychotherapy skills to your hypnotherapy practice. I’ll show you how to develop the skills, while still practising hypnotherapy and learning every step of the way. If you want some evidence that it can be done, come on my one day intensive on 15th July. Join me by going to https://theopenmindtherapist.com/events/intensive-read-your-client/

Happy theraping!

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Friday’s Soul Meeting was A-may-zing!

Last Friday, 24th June, was another amazing day! And here are my first two video testimonials to prove it! This is Linda and Steve – Soul members – all shiny from a day’s new personal and professional insights!
Linda

Steve

Thank you Linda and Steve! It is so fantastic to see your happy faces.  Feel free to comment below and make sure to leave your website addresses there so people can find you!

We met again in Bishops Stortford at a new venue: the Great Hadham Golf and Country Club.  This is, firstly, a wonderful venue and a great opportunity to test it out before our 15th July one day intensive.  We were well looked after and it was a lovely countryside retreat with a calm and cool air about it.  A few of my soul members will be there on the 15th so if you wanted to meet them and ask what the membership is all about, I’m sure they wouldn’t mind answering your questions.

Each time we meet, we look forward to our sharing: not only what has everyone done in the last 6 weeks, but what have you learned: about yourself, your clients, and how is your practice growing, changing or developing.  It always feels for me at least, like a feast of good humour and cameraderie that breeds a safe and comfortable environment for us to explore and build a great support network of open mind therapists!

My Soul group is not only about professional development: it is about who we are as people behind the professional facade.  This week, apart from sharing our professional concerns, we delved into the world of psychodrama and all of us took part in a process that facilitated not only one of the group members’ personal development but each of our own too. And I showed them how they can apply these lessons to their clients.

Last month we welcomed a guest speaker Melanie Fryer, Open Mind’s Nutritional Adviser (must give her a page on my site any day now) who wowed us sharing her knowledge and experience on food and a little known style of assessing body and food compatitibility called ‘Metabolic Typing’.  So taken by it were some of my members that they’ve reported this time changing their diet and feeling alot better in themselves.  If you haven’t yet listened to Melanie’s teleseminar you can find it in the Mind membership archives by going to Mind on the membership tab and subscribing.

Our next meeting is on 5th August which I’m also really looking forward to.  Who knows what we’ll do just yet?  Could it be working with fairy tales or working with families?  Working with families or rather, children, appears to be high on the agenda lately.  Many questions around age appropriate therapy, involvement of families, and how to manage them.  Working with families must be one of the trickiest things to achieve as a therapist so having some guidance is invaluable.

Join me on 5th August. Go to https://theopenmindtherapist.com/membership/soul-membership/

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Are you stuck in petty one-upmanship?

You know, I’m guilty too. I’m guilty of believing that my way’s better than yours. But this is how I got there.

I spent the first few years in practice assuming therapists were all nice and open, on a path of self discovery and wanting to do their personal work. Then I was confronted with the reality that even in the world of therapy a large proportion of therapists are still subject to one-upmanship and deep insecurity. The more I taught my fellow colleagues from all over the UK, the more I started to realise that there was a need for people to do their personal work and not just acquire more techniques.

My own inner transformation, I knew, had transformed my therapy business. My Buddhist practice has encouraged personal development for the nearly 30 years I have practised it. Never one to let myself go stale for too long I thought it had been incumbent on me to go through such a process of transformation in order to be a professional therapist. All it seemed though was that my transformation had given me an insight and a head start among my hypnotherapy colleagues. 

However, after a couple of years of realising that I had more to teach than I at first anticipated, I hatched a certain arrogance toward my fellow therapists. If these people, who clearly hadn’t done much personal work through whichever route, were therapists, and they still felt anxious and unsure about their techniques, their clients, and themselves how could they practice ANY therapy let alone something as powerful as hypnotherapy? I felt better than them, more equipped and yet perversely anxious about my presumptuousness too. I stopped consulting with my colleagues, and started to assume everyone needed to develop themselves. And on some level, that assumption wasn’t wrong. However, it’s not something that therapists who actually need some personal development will easily admit to – and my arrogance was blocking me.

7 or 8 years on, the therapy world appears to me to be growing up along with my view of my colleagues. We’re all on a journey together and we’re all at different points on that journey. I’m here to help some of my colleagues from where they are now onto the next leg of that journey.  I’m here to help you evolve into a unique therapist who uses your personality and your style in your therapy room, instead of adopting someone elses’s.

And instead of it being ‘only NLP’ or only ‘Hypnotherapy’ I’m meeting more people who are prepared to truly evolve as therapists by taking my lessons of cohesiveness and insight and finding their own way within their chosen therapy. My graduates of my Read Your Client course are revealing their wisdom and bringing it to their practice of Hypnotherapy, NLP, Analysis, etc – doesn’t really matter what you call it. If you want to learn how to blossom in your own unique way, come and study with me. Try me out on my one day intensive this July 15th for just £69 for one or bring a colleague for £99 for the 2 of you. Go to https://theopenmindtherapist.com/events/intensive-read-your-client/

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Do I practice what I preach?

Who am I? Yes I come out with some wise words at times.  It may seem I know what I’m talking about.  But who am I to you?  What do you actually know about me?  What qualifies me, apart from my academic qualifications, to tell you how to develop your hypnotherapy practice?

Personal experience and insight

My personal experience is not just my experience of therapy but how I deal with challenges in my life.  These are things I don’t often share about me but I suppose, if you really want to know who I am, it might be useful if I open up a bit…

Well, you may well know that I’ve practised Buddhism for nearly 30 years and that in the early days of practice I was very confused and emotionally vulnerable. You would never have noticed it in my countenance: my head was always firmly in control.  But my emotional life was like a raging torrent: it washed me away, took me on journeys that were contrary to my intellect and got me into trouble!  The screen for my life was my intellect, scratch the surface and there was a fairly brittle and sensitive person inside.  During the last 30 years though, I’ve had maybe 3 major awakenings where sometimes the intellect just cannot hold onto the emotional content any longer.  And borne of trauma comes an enlightenment that you never could have conceived was inside you.  At least that’s my experience.  Now I look for the enlightenment every day, week, month.  If I’m not growing or shifting, then I’m not living my life.

My latest growth spurt has taken place in steps and stages through this last year.  You’re seeing that in this site now as you read it.  What has been that growth? And where is it going?

A deeper confidence

Firstly, I’m reaching even deeper inside myself to be able to confidently offer my skills and insights to my members.  If any of you are putting yourselves out there more and more as therapists on the internet and in the public arena, you’ll know how challenging it is to step back from who you are and be able to talk, almost dispassionately about what you can offer.  As therapists, so much of our expertise is deeply personal to us: it is borne of our own journey through life.  Putting ourselves out there can feel very exposing and it can be safer to hide behind techniques and protocols.  At least hiding behind our training, provides for us a screen.

However, we are all worthy of profound respect.  We are human beings.  I don’t want to hide behind anyone else’s ideas.   This is what makes my practice integrative.  I take the best of everything that suits my personality, and I find a way to make real human and authentic contact with my clients, supervisees or trainees.  I’m not proud about what it’s called: be it NLP, TA, CBT or any other acronym.  My philosophy is inclusive.  There is value in all systems and models and used insightfully, all can cause immense change alone or in combination.  The skill is mine to know how to relate to the individual in a way that suits them.

Managing Criticism

In the past, though I knew how to manage other people’s criticism of me or my business, it was never comfortable.  Now I’m more deeply invested in my own personal development and aware that criticism will not stop me growing.  If I don’t hold fast to my goals and dreams, noone else is going to do it for me.  For everyone that is challenged by me there are double the number finding my offering valuable.  And I’m just ploughing on.  How did I get to this point?  I realised it is now or never.  Either now I make it happen, or I just carry on dabbling in attracting students to my school for ever.  How is this changing me?  I’m working smarter, more focussed and bringing people into my business to help run it.  I am finding the drive to do this by having a goal that I’ve decided I need to keep working towards every day.  That goal is to be able to have a therapy business that has an ethos of inclusivity, of personal development, of sharing that can self replicate and provide a network of support for practising hypnotherapists. And I’m looking for people to share that vision with.  The benefits for me will be clearly to develop other people while getting paid for what I’m really worth. 

The Benefit of Networking

And another transformation is happening.  As I interview more and more teleseminar guests, I feel a network of good will is spreading throughout my business environment.  I’m working with people, making friendships with fellow therapists, building bridges often internationally and looking at working on joint ventures.  This inspires me and keeps me interested in my work and in developing more and more ways in which I can share my expertise with fellow therapists.  Increasingly I’m asked to talk or write an article or deliver a course.  It’s scary but it’s forward movement and every step is one step nearer to my goal.  This is the buddhist philosophy.  We are all capable of creating immense value and especially as therapists, who are in the vanguard of personal development, we have the capacity to sow seeds of conciliation and peace in our world by becoming authentic, strong and responsible individuals.

Sharing my knowledge

I want to share this development with you.  I want you to be part of the Open Mind way.  And I want to see you grow in your Hypnotherapy practices too.  You see, how you develop as an individual deeply relates to how you do therapy with your clients.  Coaches often say about business people, the only limitation in a business is the lack of imagination of the owner.  Any small business could turn into a major business with a leader who has imagination.  Believing in our limitations means we will never achieve what deep down, we know we’re capable of.  Keep track of where I’m heading.  If you’re following me, I’m heading in a direction that wants to bring you with me, to grow and gain deep personal insight and to remove your own barriers to your success.  To do that, you have to have an open mind and a seeking spirit.  If that’s you then you’re in the right place.  Take a look round the site and if you want to join my movement of insightful therapists, go to the membership page and decide which level of membership suits both your developmental needs, your geography and your pocket.  Till next time.

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Are you stuck?  Because if you are you’ll be scratching your head wondering which technique or approach you might use next with this particularly tricky client. You’ve used everything you know, and you’re on the edge of referring your client on, or signing up to another expensive course to learn how to use yet more techniques. It seems a never ending struggle to stay one step ahead of your client.
 
I hear of situations like this many times over with supervisees that come through my practice.  Even today, I receive a call from an esteemed member of my membership who wonders whether they’ve ‘done’ something irreparable to their clients and what they might do about it.
 
Did you listen only with your ears?
 
The problem really is that you’re probably only listening with your ears.  The rest of you: your intuition, your guts, your heart, your 4 remaining senses other than the ears, are not getting a look in because you are listening so intently to the words, you have been blinded to their underlying meaning. 
 
As a valued member of my free guest teleseminar newsletter, I’d like to offer you the opportunity to listen in a different way by inviting you to sign up to my next teleseminar in the Mind level series which is all about Unfocussed Listening and Using Your Intuition. https://theopenmindtherapist.com/membership/mind/
 
Last month’s teleseminar on transference provoked this feedback:
 
The transference audio was MASSIVELY useful not only did I have a client yesterday who I had some very negative feelings towards ( even though she had sucessfully quit smoking a month ago ) I would have paid her to stay away! This is not typical so I can now wonder and be curious about what’s going on there having listened to your teleseminar.
 
Then later a client bought me a plant, bottle of wine and a thank you card.  She’s with me for IBS but demonstrated so wonderfully – how she has this need to be liked. Did I mention it – you bet I did !  Gina
 
On the 8th June I’ll show you how to:
  • sit more comfortably in the therapist’s chair
  • be a less anxious therapist
  • be a more engaged therapist – even with your most difficult clients
  • get results where you thought it was impossible
  • learn how to remain centred

Will this get you out of a stuck place?  You bet it will! 

This teleseminar takes place on Wednesday 8th June at 5pm (GMT) and costs only £15to attend. Join me on https://theopenmindtherapist.com/membership/mind/
 
However, the £15 gives you access to 4 audio teleseminars in the Mind Series going back to February this year.  For £15 you’ll also get, 1 hour each on the 3 stages counselling and the transference audio teleseminar.  And next month I’ll be looking at psychodynamic versus humanist model: which of these two theoretical models does your hypnotherapy practice fall into?  I’ll show you how you can take the best of these two models and use them in your hypnotherapy practice.
 
Meanwhile, you’ve just a day left to re-listen to Tony’s teleseminar recorded last Wednesday.  Go to www.theopenmindtherapist.com and click on freebies, teleseminars.  You’ll find him there. 
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Have you become eclectic over the years?

If you’re fresh in your practice of hypnotherapy, chances are you probably bring some experience with you from your ‘previous life’.  I’m not talking Past Lives in the PLR sense, but in your career before you changed direction.  Perhaps you worked in HR or was a nurse, or like me, a teacher.  Perhaps you worked in the mental health service or as a counsellor.  Your general life experience will have brought you to a point where your seeminlgy natural progression is hypnotherapy. 

However, once starting out on the deeper study of the subconscious, one thing’s for sure: you’ll probably be realising as you go along just how many ways you may be able to reach a person’s inherent survival instinct.   Wanting to know more, you will have trained in EFT or EMDR, or perhaps you’ve done a specific style of hypnotherapy like analysis, regression or suggestion.  Patching all those different styles together will have been a labour of love.  And now you have them all under your belt, you’re wondering who on earth you might go to as your supervisor.  How do you find someone who at the very least, has trodden the same kind of developmental path as you and who will ‘get’ what it is you need from supervision?  I have heard many stories from my supervisees of their supervisors seeming to have less knowledge and experience than themselves.  At that frustrating convergence point, where our eclectic supervisee seeks supervision from a single model therapist it’s as good as the blind leading the blind!

Now, I have 2 things to say to you. 

Number 1:  
Would you like to meet with a group of like minded people who really get what supervision is about?  Because if so, my Soul level group meets once every 6 weeks around Dunmow – Bishops Stortford (Essex Herts) area.  We share our case load in a humanist and integrative setting.  What does that mean? It means we are looking at the whole person, in context, in their families and communities and then we are using authenticity and an eclectic integrative style of talk and hypnotherapy to be able to reach them.  It means we also look at our own contribution to our therapeutic relationships with our clients. Where are our blocks and impasses?  How do we actually get stuck in our client sessions and how to we get unstuck? 

Our group is a close knit and supportive group of people who want to gain a deeper confidence in working with their clients, and who are committed to their own continuing personal and professional development.  Do you have what it takes to join us?  My newest member says the following:

“For some time I had intended to have regular group supervision as I knew it would be of enormous benefit to my personal development as a therapist. I attended my first group meeting in January.  I was really worried about joining the Soul Level group because I thought everyone would know so much more than me but it’s been so comforting to realise that they have the same fears and worries as I do.  I’ve felt I’ve been totally accepted in the group from just my very first meeting to this one and feel really supported in my work. 

In just 6 weeks since that first meeting, one of the changes I’ve made is to the way I work and prepare for my clients.  I was spending far too much time preparing for each client’s next working session and since joining the group I have somehow learned to ‘let go’ and am realising that I can now trust my intuition and knowledge more than I realised.  I still have more to learn and I’m looking forward to learning in this great group and under the excellent guidance of Jenny.  I feel that no-one is being critical or judgemental and that any advice given is just ‘good sound advice’ based upon the group’s own working experiences and practices.  I’m so glad I’ve made the decision to join the Soul Level group and only wish I had done so sooner!  Thank you.”  Pat Hollisey, Hypnotherapist.

And another comment from Steve Monk, Hypnotherapist and NLP practitioner:

I would recommend, no, urge, all hypnotherapists, psychotherapists…any talking therapist to seriously look at what Jenny offers to her supervision students.  I feel more confident and professional as a result of being a part of the group.  There is so much you get from the membership that you must see your yourself. Jenny’s experience means that she has the right skills to help any talking therapist that has recently qualified through to someone who has been in the profession many years.

Check out Soul Level membership.  Our next meeting is on Friday 20th May.

Number 2:
Are you one of those people I describe above but you’re just too far away to commit to 6 weekly meets here?  Then you need to join my Heart membership level.  Heart allocates 2 hours in the week when you can ‘get’ me.  I’m either on line in the chat room, or for a while longer while the membership builds, I’m around on the phone too at those times.  All you need to do is pencil in those times in your diary and if something crops up, a difficult client or session, then just drop me a text or an email and we’ll chat about it.

However, more than just a supervision safety net, both soul and heart members have access to the counselling and psychotherapy audio lectures I deliver every month AND access to the archives for past lectures including all my teleseminar guests. 

Here’s what one of my Heart level members said.

I noticed your postings on various forums and started downloading some of your reports from your website and it became crystal clear where the gap in my work lay.  I’d been too in control, focusing in on which technique I needed to employ.  How refreshing to find someone who had identified with this and had the answers to boot. Now I can sit comfortably in the moment with my clients.  It’s taken me a while to get to this point which is why I’m writing this note because I’d like other therapists to find this shortcut and save themselves the angst that I went through.  It all adds up to increased job satisfaction and that’s so important to me.  So thank you for taking the time to share your knowledge and support other therapists.  I know how much of yourself you put into your work and it’s greatly appreciated.  It also seems bizarre that I’ve learnt so much from someone I’ve never actually met! Thank you. Gina Brown, Hypnotherapist, NLP &EFT Practitioner www.head4change.com

So join me on Heart level.  It’s more than just supervision.  It’s a whole training package that will develop you the person and the professional.

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